My husband has always loved his grandma so. He comes from a divorced family,his father and grandma live in Philly and he moved to Maryland when he was 2. He had a dad here in Maryland and father in Philly. That's the best way I can put it. His father didn't have to much to do with him while he was growing up.
So BJ (hubby) as a child would go to his grandma's every summer and sometimes for holidays. They did everything together went to the beach, went to the Showboat, shopping, or just hanging out.As he got older and after high school he joined the Army so he couldn't just go see her when he wanted to but he did call her. He called her every single Sunday even during deployments.
I first got to meet her in 2004 at her house and she is a doll. Such a sweetheart full of love an would help you out in a heartbeat kinda lady. I just love her to death like as if she was my very own grandma ( I never got to meet mine). We went up after the birth of our children so she could meet her Great Granddaughters.Oh boy did she fall in love.We also went up when hubby was on R&R during his last deployment. Kaidance has only meet her 3 times in person but she talked to her on the phone all the time and remembers her Kellsiey on the other hand she doesn't so much.
So one Sunday we call and get a nurse saying grandma had fallen and she couldn't really get a round to well. Next time we called no answer,we thought the worst. Looking online for a hint of what might have happened to her if she was in the hospital or worse. I called around to hospitals and BJ called around to nursing homes. Finally he found her but he wasn't allowed to talk to her.So we called his father to find out what had happened. She just kept falling and started to lose her mind and she is diabetic so those all combined he felt it was best to have her in a safe facility.
BJ called him all the time to try and get to talk to her and to find out how she was and I must say at some points his father was not the nicest of ppl and that didn't bring out the nicest in me.
So we told him that after we got back home to Maryland that we wanted to come see her,and so we did. We went up last weekend to see her. We meet up with his father and his girl friend and then walked into this place where she is. I was taken a back by the way she looked at first ( never seeing her without her hair done) so I can only imagine the look on BJ's face. He was so upset thinking she wouldn't remember him but she sure did.She also remembered the girls. She is still such a sweetheart,her mind is not at it's best but how could she forget her best friend.
It put a smile on my face to see him with her and her remember all the stuff they used to do and to just hear her voice. The girls did very well with the visit also grandma would say some things that didn't make sense or something completely random but they didn't question her at all. At one point she started to cry (which she does every time she sees BJ) this is also another reason we knew she remembered him.
We plan on making many more trips. She may not remember that we were there recently but she remembers him and the girls and that is all that matters. He loves her with all that he is and he is trying to build a bond with his father praying that works out also.
Thursday, May 31, 2012
from Amy wife to civilian life
So we moved back a few weeks ago and I must say it sure is a change. I kinda am having a hard time finding a routine. I will get there.
So as soon as we got back to Maryland we had everything turn on in our home because our things we supposed to be here the next day,,FAIL, they got here like 5 days after but what can you do. We figured it would happen it is the Army way of life hurry up and wait so that's what we did. When our things finally did arrive it was horrible. We had to take the front door off and push our Living room furniture in. Hubby had to completely take out the stair railing(which was the one soul reason we bought the house) that I had fallen in love with 8 years ago in order to get our bed up stairs. My washer is currently sitting in my dining room because it is to big to go where is should( good thing we were remodeling that room anyways).I just can't wait to get money and start the remodel or should I say finish the remodel lol.
We started the girls in school here the Monday after we got here and their teachers just love them. I always hear about how well they do and how cute they are and that my husband and myself are so blessed (trust me I already know that). Their last day is tomorrow and then it's summer vacation and I seriously can not wait. We have so much to do and learn. I will still be doing school work with them everyday and making sure they are reading but we are also going to play and have fun.
After getting settled hubby and I started a mad search for jobs and with luck we found them. Hubby got hired back on with coke and starts very soon. I was just going to go back to Sheetz and do what I have always done(adding that I wasn't trilled about it) but I applied for a teller position at a bank and go a call and I start there very soon as well. It is just part time for now which is what I wanted because someone needs to be with the girls in the afternoons and evenings so it works out great for our family for now.
I love being back home,I can't lie thought I do miss somethings about Kansas. From January 3rd I had a daily routine and stuck with it losing 28lbs before we came back. Since we have been back I have gain like 3lbs back and I am so not liking that. It is no ones fault but mine I need to get a grip on it though because I did NOT work that hard to just quit and give up. I will find a new routine. I love having family around. We have had a few get together here at our house in which I cooked and hung out and I love it. I cant wait for our home to be all done and we can have everyone over maybe since we didn't have a housewarming party we will have a welcome home remodeled party or something. I think that would be fun.
I miss my Ashley but she isn't in Kansas anymore so that makes me a little better at not missing Kansas so much. The girls are all doing well. Kaidance gets to talk to Madison on Saturdays and Kellsiey calls Trinity sometimes. I still have to get a headphone skype capable for our computer. So we can see each other. I have talked to my Bestie Jess on the phone like all day (just like old times) lol that girl and I could be on the phone for 24 hours strait and not have a moment of silence. I haven't seen her yet so this is a must do very very soon.
So as soon as we got back to Maryland we had everything turn on in our home because our things we supposed to be here the next day,,FAIL, they got here like 5 days after but what can you do. We figured it would happen it is the Army way of life hurry up and wait so that's what we did. When our things finally did arrive it was horrible. We had to take the front door off and push our Living room furniture in. Hubby had to completely take out the stair railing(which was the one soul reason we bought the house) that I had fallen in love with 8 years ago in order to get our bed up stairs. My washer is currently sitting in my dining room because it is to big to go where is should( good thing we were remodeling that room anyways).I just can't wait to get money and start the remodel or should I say finish the remodel lol.
We started the girls in school here the Monday after we got here and their teachers just love them. I always hear about how well they do and how cute they are and that my husband and myself are so blessed (trust me I already know that). Their last day is tomorrow and then it's summer vacation and I seriously can not wait. We have so much to do and learn. I will still be doing school work with them everyday and making sure they are reading but we are also going to play and have fun.
After getting settled hubby and I started a mad search for jobs and with luck we found them. Hubby got hired back on with coke and starts very soon. I was just going to go back to Sheetz and do what I have always done(adding that I wasn't trilled about it) but I applied for a teller position at a bank and go a call and I start there very soon as well. It is just part time for now which is what I wanted because someone needs to be with the girls in the afternoons and evenings so it works out great for our family for now.
I love being back home,I can't lie thought I do miss somethings about Kansas. From January 3rd I had a daily routine and stuck with it losing 28lbs before we came back. Since we have been back I have gain like 3lbs back and I am so not liking that. It is no ones fault but mine I need to get a grip on it though because I did NOT work that hard to just quit and give up. I will find a new routine. I love having family around. We have had a few get together here at our house in which I cooked and hung out and I love it. I cant wait for our home to be all done and we can have everyone over maybe since we didn't have a housewarming party we will have a welcome home remodeled party or something. I think that would be fun.
I miss my Ashley but she isn't in Kansas anymore so that makes me a little better at not missing Kansas so much. The girls are all doing well. Kaidance gets to talk to Madison on Saturdays and Kellsiey calls Trinity sometimes. I still have to get a headphone skype capable for our computer. So we can see each other. I have talked to my Bestie Jess on the phone like all day (just like old times) lol that girl and I could be on the phone for 24 hours strait and not have a moment of silence. I haven't seen her yet so this is a must do very very soon.
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